Kids In The News
By: Patti Bankson
Forever ago when I was a kid, going to the movies was a real value. Before the feature, we had cartoons, assorted â€œshort subjectsâ€, and the news, one segment of which was called, â€œKids in the Newsâ€. They featured kids whoâ€™d excelled academically, had done something kind, helpful or heroic, or made an important discovery with the potential to change peopleâ€™s lives.
There are still â€œKids in the Newsâ€â€¦ â€œkidsâ€ like college students who think their major is drinking, and their minor is a study in how to do their best work in their major. Some students never finish the course work because they drink too much and die, either from alcohol poisoning or from taking a multi-floor tumble from the balcony rail they were using as a tight rope. Others spent so much time on their majors and minors they ended up dropping out or being put out because their brains had turned to mash.. uh, I mean mush. Or, we have a 16-year old â€œkidâ€; ex-Goth turned Satanist, turned credit card thief, turned marijuana grower, who moved on to where he is nowâ€¦ in jail for committing a vicious, ritualistic-style murder. Then we have another teenager, turned killerâ€¦ for the best of reasons (I say, my voice dripping with sarcasm!) he killed his 14-year-old girlfriendâ€™s parents rather than face the consequences of their decision to stay out all night. A far cry from the original â€œKids In The Newsâ€, Iâ€™d say.
I see the genesis of those stories in parents who survived the backbreaking depression era, who wanted their children to have a better life than they had. Unfortunately, whenever someone comes up with a â€œnothing wrong with thatâ€ Idea, the result goes far beyond the original intent. Out of this original intent came a whole new sub-culture: teenagers. An innocuous, born-out-of-love concept has morphed into something unrecognizable. It seems the LA LA LAND called the teen years has produced vast unintended consequences, like the stories above, which make it obvious that we need to build a very different bridge from childhood to adulthood.
This isnâ€™t just about â€œkidsâ€ becoming criminals. Itâ€™s also about 20, 30 and 40-somethings moving back home into rooms redecorated just for their â€œhomecomingâ€, that only get cleaned if mom does it. If â€œthe kidâ€ eats, itâ€™s food provided and prepared by the parents. With no rent to pay, they can afford a more expensive car and more of a social life. Theyâ€™re no longer â€œchildrenâ€, so, no rules â€“ come and go as you please, do whatever you want, with whomever.
What a sweet life! No wonder â€œkidsâ€ stay past the initial â€œjust-until-Iâ€™m-back-on-my-feetâ€ time. And when the parents think their welcome mat has been completely abused and worn out, itâ€™s no wonder theyâ€™re not sure what to do. The Way I See It, this decision has the potential to be unpredictable and scary: â€œGet rid of the kidsâ€ and if all goes well, you get your home and your life back. Or, get rid of the kids and face the possibility that the kids move out, but come back later to â€œget rid of you!â€ Yoweeee!
Some say that parenting isnâ€™t for wimps. Boy, howdy! They â€œainâ€™tâ€ just whistling Dixie!!
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